Navigating Parenthood As A Parent of Color

Alright, parents let’s get real. Parenthood is not a walk in the park. It can sometimes seem like a rollercoaster, minefield, and downright battlefield. For parents of color, the experience of parenting can be an even larger challenge.  This blog on parenting is intended to explore the nuances of being a mother of color and a father of color, as well as provide tips to help make parenthood easier.

The Weight of Expectations For Mothers

The Policy Center For Maternal Mental Health reported that “maternal mental health disorders are the most common complication of childbirth. Up to 20% of women experience maternal mental health disorders such as maternal depression and anxiety during the perinatal or postpartum period”. Moms often have to deal with the pressures of being a “good mom”, a “good wife”, a “good daughter”, and sometimes, a “respectable employee” all at the same time. 

Mothers have to navigate stereotypes, biases, and the expectations that come with being a woman of color in America, all while being told “you are strong”,  “you are resilient”, “you are a survivor” as they navigate postpartum depression and anxiety.

Though moms have been through a lot throughout pregnancy as well as during labor and delivery, this does not mean you can’t feel pain and have moments of vulnerability. 

So when we share stories and talk about both the struggles and triumphs of motherhood, this is how we support and remind each other that we’re not alone. At the end of the day, we’re all in this together. 

We’re all doing the best we can. So let’s keep our heads up, keep our spirits high, and keep on keepin’ on.

We’ve all felt the pressure to be perfect, to meet everyone’s expectations, and to always be there for our children. But we cannot forget the importance of self-care, finding support, and celebrating our accomplishments.

Let’s create a community where we can support and uplift each other. 

Let’s break down barriers, challenge stereotypes, and advocate for policies that promote maternal health and well-being. 

Together, we can make a difference.

The Weight of Expectations For Fathers

Though the focus is often on mothers, fatherhood also brings stress. As any parent knows, raising children can be simultaneously one of the most rewarding and challenging experiences a person can go through. Furthermore, it is reported that “about 10% of new fathers experience postpartum depression, with the highest risk being three to six months after a child is born. That’s less than half the rate among women. It also might be an underestimate, because traditional measures might not fully measure depression in fathers”(American Heart Association News).

Fathers are often expected to be the “breadwinner,” the “disciplinarian,” and the “unemotional type.” These stereotypes can be suffocating, and limit a father’s ability to express their emotions and form an emotional attachment  with their children.

Fathers of color may face additional challenges, such as being seen as a threat or a danger to society, even when they’re simply trying to be good fathers. This can lead to feelings of isolation, frustration, self-doubt, and displays of fake happiness to cope.

It’s very important for fathers of color to recognize these challenges and to find ways to cope. This may involve seeking support from other fathers of color, finding healthy outlets for stress, and prioritizing self-care.

5 Tips for Navigating Motherhood as a Woman of Color

1. Find Your Tribe: Link up with other women of color who are also moms. Sharing stories and support can make a world of difference. Consider special interest mom groups in your city to meet up with other moms who can relate to your journey. 
2. Self-Care Is healthcare, and that’s No Joke: Take time for yourself, even if it’s just a few minutes each day. Self-care is a proactive way to maintain your mental, emotional, and physical health in order to balance your needs and the needs of your family. 
3. Don’t Let Yourself to be Boxed In:  Stereotypes can put you in a box, and limit your ability to have empathy and self compassion as you navigate motherhood. Embrace your unique journey and celebrate your strengths, and make efforts to expand your identity beyond your role as a mother.
4. Ask for Help: Allow yourself to ask for help, even though it can feel scary and uncomfortable to do so. There are plenty of resources available to support moms of color.
5. Keep A Positive Attitude: Mindset makes the difference between misery and tackling challenges head on with intelligence, creativity, and determination. 

5 Tips for Navigating Fatherhood as Fathers of Color

Being a father of color presents unique challenges and opportunities. Here are five tips to help you navigate this rewarding journey:

1. Foster Positive Role Models: Seek out and connect with positive male role models of color in your community. These individuals can provide guidance, support, and mentorship.
2. Embrace Cultural Heritage: Teach your children about their cultural background and heritage. This can help them develop a strong sense of identity and pride.
3. Address Racial Bias: Be prepared to discuss and address racial bias and discrimination. Open and honest conversations can help your children develop the skills to navigate these challenges.
4. Prioritize Self-Care: Taking care of yourself is essential for being a present and effective father. Make time for activities that help you relax and recharge.
5. Build a Strong Support Network: Surround yourself with supportive friends, family, and community members. A strong support network can provide encouragement and help you through difficult times.

Remember, Parent of Color: You’re Not Alone! 

You’re strong, you’re resilient, and you’re capable of overcoming any challenge that comes your way. 

Keep your head up, keep your spirits high, and know that there are people who believe in you.

Like us. Reach out to us today if you’re struggling or would simply like a helping hand.